01At a glance
LangMem is for people writing agents in LangGraph: it gives the agent a tool to save and search memories as it talks, and a manager that reflects afterwards, each a prompt to an LLM. recall is for people using agents someone else wrote: it reads the transcripts Claude Code, Codex and Cursor keep on disk and gives all three search over them and notes that update overnight.
If you are not building an agent, LangMem has nothing to attach to; if you are, recall will not see its conversations unless they pass through one of those three tools.